Clinical

When the Therapist Is the Other

March 2026 · 10 min read

There is a scene that plays out in consulting rooms all over the world, every single day, and nobody writes about it honestly. A patient walks in. The therapist is sitting there. And before a single word is spoken — before the presenting complaint, before the history, before the tentative "so, what brings you here today?" — something has already happened. The patient has looked at the therapist and made a series of calculations that have nothing to do with psychoanalytic theory and everything to do with power.

Is this person like me? Can this person understand me? Does this person belong to the group that has historically caused my suffering?

These are not neurotic distortions. These are not transferential projections to be interpreted away. These are rational assessments of social reality. And the entire psychoanalytic tradition — the tradition that prides itself on taking the unconscious seriously — has been remarkably, almost impressively, bad at taking this seriously.

The Invisible Therapist (A Convenient Fiction)

Classical psychoanalytic technique is built on a fantasy: the blank screen. The analyst as a neutral surface onto which the patient projects their internal world. It's a beautiful idea. It's also — and let's just say it — a fantasy that only works if the analyst is the default. If the analyst is white, straight, cisgender, from the dominant culture, educated at the right institutions. In that case, the analyst's identity is invisible. It doesn't register as an identity at all. It registers as normal. And normalcy, in the consulting room as everywhere else, is power that doesn't have to announce itself.

But what happens when the therapist is not the default? When the therapist is queer in a heteronormative clinical culture? When the therapist is from an ethnic minority in a country that considers them, at best, a guest? When the therapist speaks the patient's language with the wrong accent, or the right accent, or an accent that signifies a history the patient would rather not think about?

What happens is that the blank screen cracks. And behind it is a person. A person with a body, a history, a set of social coordinates that the patient reads — instantly, automatically, and often with devastating accuracy.

The training manuals don't have a chapter for this.

Fanon Was a Clinician (People Forget This)

Frantz Fanon is usually read as a political philosopher. Postcolonial theory. Decolonization. Violence and liberation. All of that is true. But Fanon was also a psychiatrist. He ran a psychiatric hospital in Algeria during the French colonial war. He treated patients — both Algerian and French — while the colonial structure was literally tearing the country apart. And he noticed something that the profession still hasn't fully absorbed: the colonial relationship doesn't stop at the door of the clinic.

Fanon described what he called the "psychoexistential" experience of being Black in a white world — the experience of being constituted as an object in the gaze of the other. You don't just encounter racism. Racism encounters you. It gets inside. It shapes how you see yourself seeing yourself. And it does this not through ideology alone, but through the body, through everyday interpersonal encounters, through the micro-moments that accumulate into a psychic structure.

Now transpose this into the consulting room. A therapist from a marginalized background sits across from a patient from the dominant culture. Who is the object of whose gaze? The training says: the patient is the focus. The patient's internal world. The patient's projections. But Fanon would ask a different question: whose reality is being treated as the neutral backdrop? And whose reality is being treated as the thing that needs explaining?

Because here's what actually happens. The patient, perhaps without meaning to — perhaps even with the best of intentions — says something that reveals an assumption. An assumption about where the therapist is from. About what the therapist knows. About the therapist's competence, cultural familiarity, authority. And the therapist has to make a decision in real time: Do I interpret this? Do I let it pass? Is this transference, or is this just Tuesday in a society that has opinions about people who look like me?

The Countertransference Nobody Trained You For

Countertransference, in the classical sense, is what the therapist feels in response to the patient. It's supposed to be a clinical tool — a source of information about the patient's unconscious. The therapist monitors their own emotional reactions and uses them as data. Elegant, in theory.

But what about the countertransference that isn't about the patient? What about the feeling that arises not from the therapeutic relationship but from the social one? The queer therapist who feels a flicker of vigilance when a new patient starts talking about "traditional values." The therapist of color who feels their jaw tighten when a white patient says something well-meaning about diversity. The clinician from a refugee background who notices they're working twice as hard to appear professional, composed, authoritative — because they know, from a lifetime of experience, that people like them are granted authority provisionally, conditionally, and it can be revoked at any moment.

Is that countertransference? Or is that survival?

The honest answer is: it's both. And the clinical tradition gives you almost no framework for holding both simultaneously. You're supposed to be the container — Bion's famous concept. The therapist receives the patient's unprocessed emotional material, metabolizes it, and returns it in a more digestible form. Beautiful. But who contains the container when the container is also carrying the weight of their own social existence in a world that othered them long before they ever sat in a therapist's chair?

The profession's answer, historically, has been: personal analysis. Go work it out in your own therapy. Which is fine, as far as it goes. But it locates the problem inside the individual therapist. It treats structural violence as a personal issue to be resolved. And this is precisely the move that Fanon spent his entire career arguing against.

The Double Consciousness of the Consulting Room

W.E.B. Du Bois described double consciousness as the experience of always seeing yourself through the eyes of the dominant culture — measuring your soul by the tape of a world that looks on in amused contempt and pity. It's a concept from 1903 and it hasn't aged a day.

The marginalized clinician lives a clinical version of this. They are simultaneously inside the therapeutic role — listening, reflecting, interpreting, holding the frame — and outside it, monitoring how they are being perceived, calculating whether their interventions will be received as authoritative or dismissed as insufficient, wondering whether the patient's idealization is genuine or compensatory, whether the patient's hostility is transferential or just good old-fashioned prejudice dressed up in therapeutic language.

This is exhausting. It is also, paradoxically, a source of clinical knowledge that the default therapist simply does not have access to.

Because the marginalized clinician knows something about otherness from the inside. Not theoretically. Not from a textbook chapter on cultural sensitivity. From life. They know what it feels like to have your internal reality overwritten by someone else's assumptions. They know what it costs to maintain a coherent self in a world that keeps telling you your self is a problem. And this knowledge — if the profession would let them use it — is clinically invaluable.

The patient who comes in feeling like nobody understands them? The marginalized clinician has a version of that experience that isn't empathic imagination. It's memory.

The Problem With "Cultural Competence"

Somewhere in the last two decades, the mental health profession decided to solve this problem. The solution they came up with was "cultural competence." Take a workshop. Learn about different cultures. Be sensitive. Be aware. Add a module to the training curriculum. Check the box.

The problem with cultural competence is that it treats culture like a foreign language — something you can learn enough of to get by. A phrase book for otherness. "In this culture, they value family." "In that culture, eye contact means something different." As if knowing these facts changes anything fundamental about the power dynamics of the clinical encounter.

What cultural competence almost never addresses is the clinician's own position. Not their knowledge about the other, but their position as the other — or as the default, which is just as clinically relevant and far less examined. Cultural competence asks: do you understand your patient's culture? It almost never asks: does your patient experience you as culture? As power? As the institution that has historically pathologized people like them?

And it almost never — almost never — asks: what happens when you, the clinician, are the one who has been pathologized? When your sexuality was a diagnosis until recently? When your ethnicity was a risk factor in someone's research? When the very theories you were trained in were developed by people who would have considered you a case study, not a colleague?

This isn't a sensitivity issue. This is an epistemological crisis. The marginalized clinician is asked to practice within a framework that was not built with them in mind — and then to do so with the quiet, professional composure of someone for whom the framework fits perfectly.

What Would an Honest Psychoanalysis Look Like?

An honest psychoanalysis — one that actually reckoned with the social reality of the consulting room — would start by acknowledging something uncomfortable: the therapeutic relationship is not outside politics. It is not a protected space where power dynamics are suspended. The frame doesn't neutralize the social field. It concentrates it.

Two people sit in a room. One is designated the knower. One is designated the one who needs to be known. One speaks. The other listens. One pays. The other is paid. These are power arrangements. And when one of those two people also carries the social weight of being marked as other — as less than, as suspicious, as not quite belonging — the power arrangements don't cancel out. They compound.

An honest psychoanalysis would take this as clinical material, not as noise to be filtered out. It would recognize that the queer therapist's hypervigilance is not a personal failing but a form of social knowledge. That the immigrant clinician's impostor syndrome is not just impostor syndrome — it's the internalization of a system that distributes authority along ethnic lines and then tells you the distribution is meritocratic.

It would also recognize — and this is the harder part — that the marginalized clinician's position creates specific therapeutic possibilities. Not despite the marginality, but through it. The therapist who has been othered carries a particular sensitivity to the experience of not being seen. And in a profession that is fundamentally about seeing and being seen, that is not a deficit. That is a clinical instrument.

The question is whether the profession is willing to hear it.

The question is whether the profession has ever been willing to hear it.

The question, frankly, is whether a tradition that spent a century treating homosexuality as a disorder, that exported its theories to the colonies without a second thought, that still teaches Oedipus as universal while ignoring kinship structures that don't fit the model — whether that tradition has the capacity to recognize that the margin is not the periphery. It is, for many of the people sitting in both chairs, the center of the clinical experience.

And until the training reflects that — not as an elective, not as a special interest module, but as a foundational principle — the therapist who is also the other will continue doing what marginalized people have always done in institutions that weren't built for them: the extra work, in silence, and then going home tired in a way that has no name in the diagnostic manual.